The secret to the perfect handshake on or offline is a few sincere compliments or 1 compliment.

The secret to the perfect handshake on or offline is a few sincere compliments or 1 compliment.  For personal or business new and old friendships when chatting online or offline, do you wonder if your handshake worked?  Did you make a great impression?  Was it a 1st or 2nd impression?  Can you make a great 2nd impression and win over a new friend or an old friend or client?  Yes or yes?  It is possible.  Think positive and think big is the name of the game.

Number 1 problem is not a whole lot of people go around complimenting many others.  Most people like to be complimented, but when they are the complimenter vs the complimentee their brain is doing something completely different than what its simply used to doing.  You have to actually show a sincere interest in the other person to actually make the handshake work.

For in person handshakes, it’s the eye contact and the firm but comfortable grip that makes a great impression.  Maybe I suggest adding 1 small twist to finesse your new or established friend/connection.  The compliment.  The sincere compliment.  Simple instruction til you get used to it.  Are they wearing a tie?  Are they using a super cool pen?  What color is it?  An impressive haircut?  What do you like about them today?  Compliment them on THAT!  What do you like about the way they handled a situation?  Do they always maintain their cool all the time and how do they do it?  The secret to the perfect handshake on or offline is a few sincere compliments or 1 compliment.

At the lectern at Toastmasters, shake hands as you approach the lectern to speak, immediately address with Fellow Toastmasters, Most Welcomed guests and as Toastmaster is seated and facing you, address him or her too.  Time is tight, but if you sneak in fabulous tie or earrings with direct eye contact real quick but clear bet you may make an extra good impression.

Also, BEFORE you leave the lectern, shake hands with the Toastmaster coming back to the lectern with direct eye contact too.  Tremendous great 1st and 2nd impressions.

This IS the secret to winning the handshake online or offline.  But, online you don’t have the grip and the eye contact.  Right.  So make your 1-3 sincere compliments count.  Make an impression today.  Recognize someone today.  Make someone feel special.  It’s easy.  Pay it forward.  Be grateful for a compliment headed your way.

Another blog post might be how to respond to a compliment.  The simple 2 words, Thank you.  The long version, in the next blog.  Have a fantastic day friend.  The secret to the perfect handshake on or offline is a few sincere compliments or 1 compliment.

What others think about compliments: Tracie Bloom gave a Ted Talk on compliments and Emily shares how to accept compliments.

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